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Neo-Tech Advantage #25
Many books about achieving happiness, pleasure, and love contain valid, valuable information. But most such books are slanted toward gaining approval of the establishment media and culturally influential pseudo-intellectuals. Many authors struggle to gain approval of the neocheaters by maligning material achievements and disparaging the potency of the human mind. One must know how to dismiss that "striving for approval" approach in order to glean any useful knowledge and values from those books.
But many books can be more damaging than helpful to readers because their authors project major psychological, philosophical, and even physiological errors. Those errors are often subtle and remain undetected by most readers. [Eight of the best selling "sensuous" sex manuals are summarized in Table 11 of Neo-Tech Reference Encyclopedia. Those books are analyzed in greater detail in Appendix C of the Neo-Tech Reference Encyclopedia. The first two books on that list, for example, have excellent value and are recommended reading as a supplement to the Psychuous concepts. The next three books are of value, but contain various errors that demand dogmatic adherence to the authors' tastes and standards -- or else, the authors imply, the reader will be guilty of "unsensuous" behavior. The last two books could be harmful to many readers, even fatal.]
Some books reflect the authors personal or sexual problems and actually point the way to eventual impotence and frigidity. Major exceptions to such books exist -- such as the books by the farsighted pioneer of modern sexuality, Havelock Ellis (1859 - 1939). Also reflecting sexual health rather than sexual problems or hang-ups are the books of Albert Ellis (although his books fail to recognize the crucial importance of value selectivity). Alex Comfort's books, The Joy of Sex and More Joy, and the O'Neills' book, Open Marriage, also project healthy views recommended for reading as supplements to Psychuous Pleasures.
Because of its title, most people erroneously think "Open Marriage" advocates promiscuity or multi-affairs in marriage. But, the opposite is true. In refusing to understand "Open Marriage", the religious mystics remain unknowledgeable. Thus, those mystics are particularly scathing, gossipy, and dishonest in their attacks on the O'Neills and their book. Those dishonest attacks even overwhelmed the O'Neills, causing them to succumb to those value-destroying attacks.
Some books not only harm their readers, but undermine the lives and happiness of those authors who believe and follow their own mystical notions [Re: Table 12, Neo-Tech Reference Encyclopedia]. But authors who do not believe their own published advice are so deeply dishonest that they quickly wipe out their own self-esteems.
On the other hand, honest, valid books can greatly benefit the authors as well as their readers. For example, Havelock Ellis (1859 - 1939) delivered liberating and important values to his readers. But also, his honest work gradually freed Havelock himself from the crippling effects of Christian, anti-sexual ethics. Those ethics dominated his youth and left him sexually inept in adulthood. Paralyzed by masturbation terrors, he remained a virgin until the age of thirty-two when he married. During his twenty-five-year marriage to an overt lesbian, Edith Lees, they seldom engaged in sexual intercourse, although each loved the other dearly. With the help of several mistresses, all of whom apparently loved this handsome and compassionate man, Havelock Ellis finally became a competent lover. Well after his fiftieth birthday, Ellis began to greatly enjoy sexual intercourse. In his late sixties, Ellis reached his sexual zenith in becoming a passionate lover of his beloved mistress, Franoise Laffité-Cyon, with whom he achieved great happiness and sexual fulfillment until his death at eighty years of age.