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Neo-Tech Advantage #43
MULTIPLE PARTNERS, VALUE SYSTEMS, AND INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES
Few people if any can benefit from a multi-partner relationship not only because of the painful, emotional conflicts but because of the time and effort inherently required to develop a valuable, romantic-love relationship with just one partner. Furthermore, the amount of time required to develop valuable multi-partner relationships could deprive an individual of the time needed to fully develop crucial areas of life such as a rewarding career, productive work, business. [Re: Concept 41 and 42, Neo-Tech Reference Encyclopedia]
The biggest negative of multi-partner relationships evolves from the nature of psychuous sex: Romantic love works best when structured around long-term, monogamous relationships. Why? Because continuous efforts and experiences with an exclusive partner deliver the most intimacy, growth, and values. Thus, the most erotically exciting and sexually satisfying experiences by nature evolve from long-term, monogamous/psychuous relations. ...And today, the rise of incurable herpes and deadly AIDS adds a new dimension to the advantages of monogamous, romantic-love relationships.
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All individual values, including sexual values, fall into two categories -- (1) nonjudgeable or amoral values that arise from each person's unique personality development, and (2) objectively right or wrong values that arise from a person's volitional character development. Many Neo-Tech/Psychuous concepts deal either directly or indirectly with the second category. Those values are self-determined and reflect a person's view of:
- Self and others.
- Rights of individuals.
- Value of conscious life.
- Work, productivity, creativity, achievement.
- Acquiring knowledge and loyalty to honesty.
- Acquiring personal pleasures and happiness.
Other Neo-Tech/Psychuous concepts deal with the nonjudgmental or amoral values that reflect unique individual preferences such as the:
- Physical and psychological features that a person finds most attractive and stimulating in a love partner.
- Combination of values that deliver the greatest curiosity, excitement, satisfaction.
- Most satisfying or pleasurable styles, methods, techniques.
Each individual has his or her own sexual value system. Such values evolve from subconscious ratings of past experiences, personal preferences, personal desires. Those values can vary widely from person to person. Many sexual values depend on the individual's unique personality and tastes. And those values are not subject to judgments of right and wrong, better and worse, moral and immoral...they merely reflect personal differences.
Contrary to advice in most books on sex and marriage, an important task of every couple working toward romantic love and psychuous pleasure is not to seek compromises between their unique sexual values, but to openly become aware of each other's sexual values. Once aware of one's own as well as one's partner's sexual values, the differences can be used to intensify intimacies and pleasures. Those deep intimacies are achieved by satisfying the sexual values of one's partner without compromising one's own sexual values. In that process, each partner becomes increasingly valuable and uniquely irreplaceable to the other. Such relationships become evermore secure as romantic love grows without restrictions or bounds. Divorces in those rational, non-mystical relationships diminish toward zero as values and happiness grow with time and effort. ...All such growing values become like money in the bank -- a permanent, growing, emotional bank account that becomes irreplaceable by anyone else.
To gain honest Neo-Tech advantages, one must always be aware of the great physical, intellectual, and psychological differences among individuals. People exhibit strikingly different characteristics in: physical structures, ways of thinking, areas of knowledge, mental capacities, views of life. As a person develops one's character, an unevenness develops in being honest versus being mystical. For example, a person may find that the honest integration of facts is easier in certain areas of life. In other areas, that person surrenders to the "easy-way-out" mystical trap. Such unevenness in honesty is caused by a person's past and present choices and actions. That volitional behavior, in turn, determines the rate of personal evolvement and the quality of character development.
A major mistake that many people make is to expect other people to be like them. People are not alike. Furthermore, most individual differences are not subject to right or wrong judgments. Amoral differences are merely differences -- not right or wrong entities. Another error is the belief that a person can change the basic nature of another person. Basic changes occur only from within the individual's own self. No one else can force or pressure such changes.